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Renewing Our Mind

Chasing Financial Freedom - Words Have PowerHere it is the middle of the night. I’m wide awake and can’t go back to sleep. I have lots of thoughts running through my mind and each time I try to just focus on God and what He might be speaking to me, my mind jumps from thought to thought. Nothing negative but thoughts. Thoughts that are taking away from God who I’m sure is trying desperately to break through. That is when it dawned on me, God speaks to me through writing – not always of course, but there has been some significant insight in my life when I write.

I began thinking about my Sunday night group. God. My mind.

This blog entry, while seen by more than 10 strangers every day, is dedicated to a certain group in my life – You know who you are!! While I don’t specifically mention God in most of my posts – today I am.

It’s literally 4:40am right now and I have been up for 50 minutes. I am sitting in the dark on my couch busting out this post because I think God is speaking to me but not just to me to all of you reading this. Especially my Sunday night group.

As I was lying in bed for the 40 minutes prior, trying to focus on God and thank Him for all He has done for me – the big picture of Jesus and Holy Spirit, I then began to thank Him for daily blessings – some I know, while others go unnoticed. My blog in general focuses a lot on our minds and this one will be right up the same ally.

Question to all of you reading this. What is one area of your life you want to change? If you’re like me, you could write a list of things down. But what is one area that you really want to change? If you really sit back and think about it, that area in your life that you want changed – the problem stems from your mind. From the way you think.

Whatever area it is I challenge you to get a word from the bible. What word are you standing on? Do you know? If not, WHY? Why don’t you know? Get a word from the bible and speak it OUT LOUD every day against that area. Meditate on it, I guarantee, that word will become a part of you. You will become so rooted and grounded in that word that it will never leave you. It will be yours for the rest of your life. Your weapon to speak when you need it the most.

I challenge you to really become aware of your thoughts. For we must realize what is coming in, in order to stand on the word in the first place.

One area of my life, is not feeling loved. Ephesians 3:17-20 are my verses for that area. For if I truly knew and understood the depth, width, length, and height of the love that Jesus has for me, I would never feel un loved.

Another area of my life is having a hardened heart towards God. My word is Ezekiel 32:26. That I have a heart of flesh.

What is the area in your life? What word are you standing on? What are you doing with that word? Are you speaking that word out loud against that area?

The depth to which we renew our minds, is the depth to which we benefit from the word of God in our lives. The more we focus on Him, the more our lives change. The more our lives change, the bigger the light we have. The bigger our light becomes the more of an impact we have on those who we encounter each and every day. That is what Jesus has called us to do.

We have been called to be the salt of the Earth. How many of us never get there? How many of us go through the motions of life? How many of us have no clue HOW to be the light?

We go through life focused on our mistakes and inadequacies, rather than who God sees us as.

How we become the light for the world, is determined by how willing we are to renew our minds. Do we love Him enough to spend time with Him daily? To allow Him in. To allow Him/His word to change us from the inside out?

Our brain is a muscle – powerful. It’s about time we begin using it for the word of God. Exercise it with the word of God – not worldly things.

Faith and trust in God – it’s small steps. Documenting every step of the way so as never to forget. Don’t let the enemy come in and steal, kill, and destroy the work God has done in your life, because you don’t write it down.

Write it down – use your journal. Write them down. When the storms come, you should be able to go back to your journal and read how God has shown up in your life.

I write this for myself more than all of you. Do I love God enough to let Him in every day? Do I? Or do I choose to push Him away? Do I focus on His word and meditate on those words? Do I love worldly things more than the giver of life?

One last thing before I close. What saddens me is this. I was so so negative not too long ago. I didn’t even know I was. Unfortunately – but fortunately Nerium International of all things is the seed God used in my life to get me to change the way I think. My stinkin’ thinkin’ – It had to go.

What do influential, successful people focus on? They are focusing on success – not limiting themselves, and speaking their future into existence.

How much more should we be doing this, His children. We have the secret weapon. We have it. The word of God. We take it for granted. We don’t understand the depth of power it has. Because if we did. We would be unstoppable. If we did, we would be meditating on His word every minute of every day because it is Spirit and it is Life……

Let’s begin to understand and realize our thoughts. Let’s begin to fight back – with the most powerful weapon of all – THE WORD OF GOD!!!!!!!

Change

Chasing Financial FreedomToday as I was thinking about my life and the changes I have gone through, I felt I should share some insight into change. The change i’m talking about is change from the inside out.

Change can be a very uncomfortable process. It can cause a lot of different feelings and emotions. It can cause you to question the new knowledge you are learning and whether or not it’s real. If you have begun to change, there can come a point where you just give up and go back to the person you were comfortable with – but I don’t recommend that.

I can guarantee you that change is a choice – usually an uncomfortable one at that. Change doesn’t come without wanting it and actively pursuing it.

Change. Just as a butterfly goes through a metamorphosis so can you.

You may have been dealing with something your whole life, or have been a certain way, or have had people say to you, “that’s just they way our family is.” But haven’t you ever seen someone break away from the mold? Who stands up and says, “No MORE.”

You see it all begins in our mind our attitude and thoughts. In order to change, you must change the way you think. Let me say that again. In order to change to have any change in your life, you MUST change the way you think. Our thoughts become actions, our actions become words, and our words are what dictate where our lives are headed. If you are constantly tearing yourself a part then your thoughts of yourself are negative. If you are constantly tearing other’s apart, then your thoughts for them are negative.

What are you thinking?

What kind of thoughts are you having?

Chances are if you take a good look at your life it will determine what kinds of thoughts you have.

If you say you don’t measure up, never have and never will. Well people probably treat you like that. And you don’t make choices in your life different than your thoughts. So your perception of your world – the lens you see out of is one of never measuring up.

Am I making any sense?

Action Steps – The How To and Where Do I Even Begin:

  1. Begin changing your thoughts – when thoughts come in. You have a choice to make. You can either agree with that thought or disagree.
  2. When you disagree, be ready with a word that you will speak out loud – yes out loud in disagreement to that thought.
  3. Rinse and repeat. Do it as many times as you need to in order to change your thoughts. In the beginning you will need to do it much more than later on.

I am a huge believer in speaking your future into existence. So find some affirmations, positive statements that are all present tense, write them down, post them at work, in the car, on your bathroom mirror and speak them multiple times a day. Do it until you begin to believe what you’re speaking.

Thats it. You choose whether or not you will retrain your brain.  – It’s your choice. Your brain is a muscle. Begin to challenge it, begin to strength train – because your future self depends on it.

Thanks for hanging out with me! If feel free to subscribe to my blog if you like what you see. I won’t spam you – you will just get a friendly email whenever I write a new blog entry!

Tanya K.

I’m Back

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Yep….I’m Back……

For those of you who are new to my blog…..WELCOME – Please make yourself at home!!!

It’s been a long time since I have blogged. The other day I shared our blog with a friend of mine, put myself out there and became vulnerable. It’s one thing to have all of you on the internet who I don’t know read my blog, but it’s a whole other thing when it’s someone you know.

So I figured, if I am sharing this with her, I better go back and actually re-read some of my entries. WOW. Some of them, I ask myself, ‘how’d you manage to write that?’

I went on to share with my friend that I actually really never enjoyed writing. As a school teacher I obviously had to teach writing, I never enjoyed teaching the subject much. Again it was just another area in my life where I lacked confidence in my ability to write. Naturally, where you don’t have confidence, you choose not to do it.

BUT…. Eric and I created a blog. With a blog comes the need to write. Right…..

And….I have written A LOT since we have created this blog A LOT….Some of those entries are no longer published.

BUT….I lost my desire to write this past 5 or so months for reasons I don’t feel comfortable sharing. However, I am inspired to write again. Thank you to my dear dear friend who encouraged me to keep writing, for your kind words are the kick in the butt I needed. Coupled with going back and reading my past posts, my husband who kindly prompts me to write and to those of you who are following me.

As I mentioned, I went back and read a few posts mainly my last two… Settling and Limitations and the Settling entry is what caused me to tear up. For Eric and I truly have been on a journey of Epic Faith. Learning to take the limits off or our lives. Learning that ANYTHING is possible. ANYTHING.

Life for everyone is a journey. What we do with it – is our choice. How we live this life – is our choice. Everyday we have choices to make. Everyday.

So much of my life has been so self absorbed. So wrapped up in myself that I really had no thoughts or desires to encourage, support and love other’s… As our journey of growth over the past 2 years has continued, Eric & I are less absorbed with ourselves and more interested in finding ways we can inspire, love, help others. To bring about change in the minds of individual people. To bring about change in the way people do business. To bring change in the way we treat others. To bring change to those who are hungry for more.

Through my stories, I truly hope it stirs some emotions in your heart. It brings about the beginning of change in your life. And in turn you will begin your own journey of taking the limits off of your life.

Thank you for stopping by,

Eric & Tanya K.

 

Settling

traffic-sign-108779_640As I mentioned in my previous post about limitations, I began to loose that confidence and determination as I grew up. Slowly I began to let other thoughts of not being good enough, anger, stubbornness, lack of confidence, and fear, limit my potential. As time went on I began settling. I didn’t know it then, had no idea actually. But as I have grown over the past two years, I know that I was my own worst enemy.

Don’t get me wrong, my childhood wasn’t horrible but I did have some issues in my day-to-day life of relationships with my parents, more specifically my dad. I now know, I allowed (without knowing it) him to have power over my thoughts. I allowed the relationship between him and I, or should I say the lack of a relationship, define how I felt about others. It affected my daily choices.

It was what kept me from making connections with people. It is what made me keep a wall up so I wouldn’t get hurt. It is why I was uncomfortable around men. That is where my victim mentality came from. As a result, I was afraid of men, intimidated by them, and had major anxiety talking to men. At all costs, I kept my distance from men.

For the record, my dad, is not to blame. He did the best he knew with the knowledge and tools he had. He had a pretty bad childhood himself, so I know mine was better than his. We just clashed, I pushed his buttons even though I was afraid of him. He had a bad temper, and threw off the balance in our home, when he was home (which fortunately for me he wasn’t home much). Again, my dad did the best he could, and I reacted the only way I new how too with the lack of knowledge and tools that I had.

It was that experience growing up, that defined who I once was. It wasn’t until I myself slowly grew more confident that the fear of men left. It was with me up until my early 20’s. Even though the fear of men left, I was still stuck in that mindset that began from an early age. That way of thinking, has caused a lot of grief in my life. A lot of grief. It led to more severe anxiety’s, arguments with my husband, and a prison that I had no idea how to get out of.

I now know without a shadow of a doubt, the story I tell myself is very different. I have escaped my prison. I am confident, I do make lasting friendships, I am not a victim. I can talk to men without fear, and on and on and on.

This process of changing my mind, or as I like to say renewing my mind, has been a journey. Constantly feeding my mind what I want my mind to think about, which a lot of times is the exact opposite of what I really thought. It was a slow and sometimes painful process. It took commitment on my part. Even in those times that I didn’t feel like it, I made sure I renewed my mind.

In Network Marketing we call them daily affirmations. So I began telling myself every day OUT LOUD what I wanted to be, who I wanted to be. Who I wanted to attract. This was just one of the tools I learned as this process of renewing my mind began. Other tools I used and still use, will be revealed in later posts.

Some of my affirmations I would say are: I am confident, I am successful, I am a network marketing professional, I attract other confident people. I actually have 100 affirmations written down. While I don’t say them every day, there was a time when I would say a minimum of 10 affirmations three times a day. When I first woke up, around lunch time, and before bed. Every time I said them it was out loud.

In the moment of doing them, I never thought they had any effect on me. It would have been very easy for me not to do them at all. Especially since it kind of seemed silly to be saying these statements as if I already am all of those things, but not really believing it.

However, I stayed committed to my affirmations, because I emulated what other successful people that I work with do. So this process of saying affirmations each day continued without no real change seeming to manifest. But it’s because the renewing of your mind is a slow process, one where you must change your subconscious thoughts first.

Over time, I slowly began to actually believe the affirmations I told myself. I began to have a shift in my thinking, it was gradual, but there was a shift. Now while I still say my affirmations, I rely more heavily on other ways to renew my mind. In light of all this, I am no longer in that prison I spoke about, I no longer believe the story I once told myself about who I was. I now believe all my affirmations and so much more.

The Beginning of Change Comes With 4 Simple Steps:

This is just the beginning of change. It’s not a one size fits all, but it fits me.

1. What’s really important to you. This is where you realize there is more to your life, if you want more. If you have the desire to change. Whether it’s paying off debt, more freedom in your daily life, daily choices, your own business, going back to school.

2. Going after it. At all costs, go after what is important to you.  Once you know what’s important, go after it. Don’t quit. Don’t let other’s stand in your way. Go after what is important to you.

3. Awareness. You must ask yourself some serious and maybe even difficult questions. Who am I? Who do I say I am? What do I say I can do? What do I say I can’t do? Write the answers down. Also this awareness, will be a process in itself, as you choose to grow and gather more tools and acquire new knowledge.

4. Aaaahaaa. Realizing that the story you tell yourself in step 3 may be what is holding you back from realizing what is most important. Limiting you from being able to go after it. Keeping you from being successful while you are going after it.

Success IS a mindset. If you are not finding success in what you are doing, make sure you ask yourself what you really think about yourself. You may be shocked to realize who you say you are your thoughts about what you want to do are limiting your own success.

Eric & Tanya K.

Dedicated to changing lives one person at a time.

 

Father’s Day

In honor of my husband and on my children’s behalf…….I just want to say…..

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY ERIC!!!!!

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If my kids could speak, they would say that they love that their dad spends time playing, hugging, kissing, teaching, talking, and praying with them. Our oldest just waits for his dad to come home at night with such anticipation! And the youngest get’s so happy he smiles and shakes with excitement at the first sight of his dad!

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How Father’s Day Came To Be

Father's DayIn thinking about Father’s Day, I actually wanted to know the history behind it. Maybe some of you already know if not and you are wondering, the rest of this post is how Father’s Day got its start.

So here we go the history behind Father’s Day! Thank you History channel for posting this information.

Mother’s Day. Well many of you may have guessed that Mother’s Day came first. Ann Reeves Jarvis planted the seed in the1860s. She brought together a divided town in West Virginia and called it “Mother’s Work Days!” This event brought together the mother’s of both the Confederate and Union soldiers. However, Mother’s Day did not become a commercial holiday until 1908 when Jarvis’s daughter Anna who wanted to honor her own mother partnered with the John Wanamaker department store.

By 1909 45 states observed the day and in 1914 president Woodrow Wilson made the second Sunday in May to yep you guessed it, it’s now the day we celebrate and honor our mom’s!

So what about Father’s Day? Well as you may have guessed, the road to celebrate fathers was more challenging. On July 5, 1908, a West Virginia church sponsored the nation’s first event explicitly to honor fathers. It was a sermon in memory of the 362 men who had died in the previous December’s explosions at the Fairmont Coal Company mines in Monongah.

Unfortunately at the time this was a one-time event. The next year, 1909 in Spokane, Washington a woman named Sonora Smart Dodd who with her five siblings, was raised by her dad after her mother passed, tried to establish an official equivalent to Mother’s Day for dads! She had that burning desire because her dad was the one who was raising her and her siblings. She went to many different local places to get people on board with her idea.

Guess what…….. she was successful! Washington State celebrated the nation’s first statewide Father’s Day on July 19, 1910. Slowly the holiday spread, and in 1916 President Wilson honored the day by using telegraph signals to unfold a flag in Spokane when he pressed a button in Washington, D.C.! Wow pretty crazy right.

1924 came along and President Calvin Coolidge urged state governments to observe Father’s Day. Many men didn’t like the idea of this. Men didn’t want to domesticate manliness with flowers and gift giving, or thought it was just a commercial gimmick for retailers to sell more stuff.

Then in the 1920s and 30s, there was talk of having just one holiday called Parents’ Day. Every year on Mother’s Day, pro-Parents’ Day groups rallied in New York City with the message that both parents should be loved and respected together. Then came the depression and struggling retailers and advertisers worked hard at creating a “second Christmas” just for Father’s. When World War II began, advertisers began to argue that celebrating Father’s Day was a way to honor American Troops and support the war. By the end of the war, Father’s Day was a national tradition.

1972 came and Richard Nixon was in the middle of his campaign to get re-elected. During this time he signed a proclamation making Father’s Day a federal holiday at last!

This is such an amazing story of what a burning desire actually does in a person’s life. It took one person having the desire to honor their mother, and fighting for it to come to pass as a Federal holiday.

Then another women’s desire to honor her father. It isn’t like she just said I want to have a federal holiday now to honor fathers and poof it happened. She actually had to have a burning desire and make choices that at the time may have seemed very insignificant, but her efforts paid off. Mind you it took from 1909 when she had the desire and acted on it until 1916 for the President to show his support and then a whole 50 plus years later for it to become an official Federal holiday.

Eric & Tanya K.

Dedicated to changing lives one person at a time.

Limitations

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As Eric & I have found success, it hasn’t come easy. It has come at a price. The price we have paid has far outweighed any other journey I would ever choose to go down.

Peeling back the layers, upon layers, upon layers of the story we told ourselves has been the most challenging part to finding success. This journey has been largely just realizing that in order to succeed, we must take off the limits of the story we tell ourselves each and every day. Realizing there doesn’t have to be limitations to what we can accomplish.

I can personally say that I have grown more in the past two years then I have in all my previous 30 or so years…..What started this journey of growth? Nerium….. Yes Nerium….But if I want to get really honest about it. I desired more from my life before Nerium, I just wasn’t equipped with the tools or knowledge of knowing how to be more, how to have more. I don’t mean have more in terms of money either. Just have more, more opportunities, just more from life…..

Then Nerium walked in and part of the commitment when becoming a partner with Nerium, is to become a better version of yourself. This is when I discovered, personal development. It was an entirely new concept to me. I realize now how much people in this world need personal development. I realize too, how many people just like me have no idea what this really means, or how it can positively change the course of their lives once this journey begins. I find myself questioning why personal development isn’t really talked about much in our society. We just go around living our lives, but are we really happy? I don’t know about you, but before personal development entered my life, I found myself wondering if this is all there is.

I am excited to say that I once wanted more, desired more. But again it had to be a burning desire because it would have been easier for me to have given up.

For those of you who don’t know me, there is one thing you need to know.

I AM NOT A QUITTER, NEVER HAVE BEEN, AND I NEVER WILL BE…..

Your talking about the girl, the same girl who taught herself how to ride a 2-wheel bike because her mom was too busy to help her. Let me take you back to a day in the life of Tanya.

It was a Saturday morning, my dad had just left for work (he was a truck driver). While he had been home he had worked with me on learning to ride my bike. Once he left, I wanted to continue to practice and so I asked my mom to help me. She was too busy and told me to wait. So being the determined girl I was and still am today, I decided I would just do it myself…. And that I did.

Yes I taught myself how to ride a 2-wheel bike.

Did I fall? YES. Did I quit? NO.

I got back up over and over and over again because I had a burning desire. I wanted to learn how to ride my bike and I was determined to keep going until I learned. It didn’t matter how many times I fell, or how bruised I became. I new the end goal and I wasn’t going to stop until I succeeded.

Did I learn to ride my bike? YES. It didn’t take me two weeks, one week, or even two days. I got back up over and over and over again that day until I learned to balance.

As I grew up, I lost that part of me. She slowly left, I was still determined, but it was more in wanting my own way. Being right. But not going after what I really wanted. I lost the oomph. I lost that determination. It wasn’t until my first son was born that, that same determination I had as a young girl came back. That is when I knew that there had to be more. That was when I began looking, searching for a new direction. I was at a fork in the rode. I knew which way I wanted to go but had no vehicle to take me there.

In the midst of all this, I found my vehicle and my purpose.

Tanya K.

 

Life Is A Journey

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Each and every morning since I gave up coffee, I drink a cup of hot tea. I have never been much of a tea person but I guess I am hooked now. I enjoy reading the inspirational quotes on the paper label that my favorite brand includes.

One particular morning while drinking my hot tea, I read this quote. Sometimes in life we become so focused on the finish line that we fail to enjoy the journey – by Deiter F. Uchtdorf. This quote stood out to me more than most of the quotes do. You see, I have been a prime example of this. Always focused on the finish line and not enjoying the journey. I have so many examples of this in my own life but wanted to share just a couple with you.

Let me take you back to high school! I went to a very small high school. My graduating class was right around 100. It was my senior year, The year when all of us senior’s were the oldest in the school, everyone looked up to us. I couldn’t wait to become a senior and yet as soon as I was one, I was ready to graduate and move on. I skipped school my senior year. I was pretty much checked out. I had all of my required classes done so my senior year was full of electives. While I did enjoy my senior prom, among other activities, and some of my electives (because I was able to choose them), I could have enjoyed that year more had I been focused more on the daily journey. This quote really has shown me that I have always been in a hurry to get to the next point in my life and high school is one of those moments that really stand out.

Fast forward to my adult years. As I reflected on my journey, I have found that in my past, I really didn’t enjoy my day-to-day life because I wanted more. I think about how many days I lost. It was almost like my life was on hold for many years because what I wanted hadn’t happened yet. My fears were holding me back. It was almost like I was a prisoner, wanting more, being unsatisfied and yet unable to move forward. The other huge factor is, I was unaware that I was limiting my own journey in life. I didn’t even know there was more.

All I can think is, I wish that I knew then what I know now. Each and every day is a blessed day. Each and every day there is a whole world at my finger tips. Each and every day, I interact with others, I can influence, and impact those around me.

Each and every day we all have a choice to make. We either enjoy this journey through our life. Or choose to let fear, not being satisfied, or simply being in too big of a hurry to get to the next point, to rule over our lives.

I have to say that this quote really inspired me. It made me think about my life. It made me think about our blog. Life truly is a journey. One where we will all encounter ups and downs, highs and lows. I am committed to making the most out of the every day journey of my life. Instead of not being satisfied, I choose to be satisfied. Instead of being unhappy, I choose happiness. We all can enjoy more from this journey, if we think of it as a journey where every day matters.

I would like to leave you with this. Who can you touch today? Who can you bless? Who can you just give a simple smile too? A word of encouragement? When we realize life is a journey and every human on this earth is on their own journey, our lives meet, connect, intersect even if for a moment, how can we influence them, how can we become a positive part of their life’s journey?

Thank you,

Eric & Tanya K.

 

Nerium In Korea

Nerium launched in September of 2011, broke every record and continues to do so. We have an amazing culture and Jeff Olson built this company with three words ‘make people better‘ I am proof of these three words. Nerium will truly change you from the inside out!

We began our Global Expansion into Canada and then Mexico in 2014. We continue to grow as a company! Our next stop is South Korea. This is the first country to have the Nerium products outside of North America!!! Many people are excited at this new opportunity to change lives. Click to pre-enroll

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Nerium EHT

Welcome to our blog!! We are Eric & Tanya K. You probably stumbled on our page because you have heard the buzz about EHT!!!! We would like to bring awareness to you about the magnitude of what this product means to everyone who has a brain.

Nerium InternationalEHT. What is it?

It’s Nerium’s new anti-aging supplement. This isn’t just any other supplement, it is a breakthrough product that comes to Nerium after 20 years of research from Dr. Jeffry Stock a Princeton University professor & Signum Biosciences.

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